Rhoda Bernard, Ed.D.

August 12, 2009

Baking as a Metaphor for Letting Go

Filed under: Life Balance — admin @ 10:35 am

I have recently taken up baking and have found that I truly enjoy it. I love choosing a recipe, gathering the ingredients, measuring them carefully, combining them, shaping them, putting the pans in the oven, and then enjoying the tasty results that seem to have been created by magic.

I am no stranger to cooking. My husband and I love to cook, and we take turns making dinner whenever we are both home at dinnertime. We do a lot of sauteing and stove-top cooking, including grilling (our stove has a grill), stir frying, pan frying, pasta cooking, and so on. Sometimes we prepare roasts and casseroles, but most of the time we cook on the stove.

I recently had an epiphany about baking and the reason that I enjoy that process so much and find it so satisfying. When you bake, you do the “work” of the cooking up front, and then you put things in the oven and let them go. You let the oven take over, and the baking process do its thing.

The dynamics of stove-top cooking are quite different. When you cook on the stove, you are active most of the time. You do a larger share of the “work” of the cooking, and you do it at the beginning, middle, and end of the cooking process. You stir the pans, you add more ingredients, you take things out of the pans, you participate in various steps pretty much all along the way.

I think that I find great satisfaction and joy when I bake because baking requires that I let go, that I let things happen rather than make things happen. Instead of doing all of the cooking, I do the parts that I can do and I give over the rest of the process to the magic that happens in the oven.

What an apt metaphor for so many aspects of life. Do what you can and then give yourself over. There is magic waiting to happen.

August 8, 2009

The Triumph of Getting Older

Filed under: Fitness, Life Balance — admin @ 7:56 am

My birthday is coming up in about a month. As it approaches, I can’t help but think about what it means to me to get older.

Once I hit my mid-30s, I noticed that I had become concerned about my age. I no longer could think of myself as one of the “young people.” I regularly encountered folks younger than me in positions of authority or who had accomplished a great deal. I felt a bit bothered by this.

Over the last several years, this attitude has changed. I think it has a lot to do with paying more attention to my health (through watching what I eat and working out). It also has to do with my more successful efforts lately to find and maintain balance in my life.

Now, when I think about getting older, instead of feeling bothered, I feel triumphant. As each year passes, I continue to be healthy and strong. Instead of being ashamed to be another year older, I feel triumphant to be the age that I am.

I am roughly the same age as a couple of athletes who have recently triumphed: swimmer Dara Torres and pitcher Tim Wakefield. Both are older than most athletes, and both have had remarkable years. Torres triumphed at the Olympics in 2008, and has done very well in her competitions since then. Wakefield was named to the All Star Team in 2009, for the first time in his career. Talk about triumphing as we age!

I don’t need to win medals or be considered an All Star in order to triumph as I age. I just need to stay healthy, balanced, and true to myself.

Be Good to Yourself

Filed under: Life Balance, Uncategorized — admin @ 7:14 am

If you’re like me, you spend most of your time doing what needs to be done and seeing to other people’s needs. It takes a lot for me to remember that it’s important to be good to myself. And when I do remember that and actually do something that is good for me, I often find myself feeling guilty about it.

Well, no more!

It’s high time to make being good to myself a priority. Without guilt.

How do you feel about being good to yourself? What do you do to make yourself a priority, without guilt?

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