Rhoda Bernard, Ed.D.

July 23, 2009

We Live in a Bubble; We all Have our Caves

Filed under: Current Events, Gender Issues, Philosophy — admin @ 7:12 am

At dinner last night friends Kristy, Gaynor, and I were sharing stories of discrimination and prejudice. Kristy had recently met some folks who were deeply homophobic. Gaynor shared a story about attitudes towards disabled people and the nature of disabilities that are more visibly evident than others. I remarked upon the recent incident with Henry Louis Gates as an illustration that racial profiling is alive and well, even in Cambridge, Massachusetts, a community that we like to think is progressive. We kept coming back to the point that people’s perspectives, whatever they are, enclose them in a bubble. In all of these cases, bubbles were colliding in different ways, and the limitations of the bubbles were being revealed.

This summer, my students and I read and discussed Plato’s Allegory of the Cave. Our discussion led us to consider the fact that there might be a series of allegorical caves out there. As we journey towards enlightenment (however that looks), might we not be simply leaving one cave for another? What cave are we in now? What does the next cave in our journey look like, and how do we get there (clearly, as Plato said, it will be a painful process of being dragged out of the darkness and towards the light, and we won’t believe what we see for quite some time)?

When the same group of students began considering the history of public school education in this country, they found themselves thinking about the caves that folks were in during earlier periods of history. For example, in colonial times, only white landowning men were considered citizens in the full sense of that word. Women, people of color, and children were not thought of as full citizens (and, in the case of the first two, could never be full citizens).

Some people look at the most recent presidential election as a sign that we in America have come a long way. An African American man has become President of the United States. A woman almost became the presidential nominee for her party, and now holds one of the most powerful positions in our government. Yet while these are certainly significant milestones and achievements, incidents like the ones my friends and I were discussing over dinner remind me that, as a nation, we still have a long way to go.

July 22, 2009

A Spark Kindled

Filed under: Technology — admin @ 8:09 pm

Today, thanks to my former student Kelly, I finally had the opportunity to experience the Kindle first hand. Kelly has one of the first generation Kindles, and she brought it to me so that I could hold it, play with it, and see if I would like one. My husband wants to buy a Kindle for me for my upcoming birthday, because I love to read (especially fiction) and am always carrying books with me.  Add to that the fact that I travel quite a lot and books take up a good amount of room in my suitcases.

I must say, having spent some time with this device kindled a spark in me. I loved the lightness of it (and the newer generation is even smaller and lighter), the ease of the interface (something else that has been improved on in the newer generation, as I understand), the ability to purchase books instantly and to preview them before purchasing them, the flexibility of the display, and the feel of it in my hands.

I was concerned that it would bother me that it is not easy to figure out where the next break in a book’s action is (a section break or a chapter break), something I like to know when I read because I often read within time constraints and need to make decisions about whether to continue or stop where I am. But this didn’t bother me when I tried Kelly’s Kindle. It is very easy to mark one’s place (something much more difficult if one stops mid-way in a section and uses bookmarks, as I do, and the Kindle tells you how much of the book you have read.

I am excited to get my own Kindle. We are going on vacation shortly before my next birthday, and the plan is for me to have my present in time for the vacation. I can hardly wait to get my very own Kindle!

July 16, 2009

Some Guilty Pleasures Revealed

Filed under: Entertainment, Fashion and Beauty, Life Balance — admin @ 2:02 pm

There are some things in my life — activities, reading material, TV shows, music, etc. — that I enjoy but that I don’t feel proud of, or don’t often share. My guilty pleasures. I imagine that we all have guilty pleasures of various kinds in our lives.

Today, I am going to reveal publicly a few of my guilty pleasures:

1. Music -
Musical theater songs, even the cheesy ones. Having grown up on a strict diet of Barbra Streisand and Rogers and Hammerstein, I must admit that I love even the cheesy musical theater repertoire. I know that it is not the most artful music and/or that the lyrics are not the most witty. But something in me just adores the shmaltz of it all.

2. Television – reality TV shows about modeling. Even the really bad ones. I have posted in this very blog about one of the better modeling-oriented reality TV shows, She’s Got the Look. But I must admit that I also enjoy America’s Next Top Model and the Janice Dickinson shows on TV. Something about the campiness of it all and the behind-the-scenes look at the modeling industry keep me coming back for more.

3. Activity – shopping for just about anything. I love to shop. Even if I don’t need anything and/or don’t buy anything. The entire process of shopping is fun for me. This may have something to do with my continued enjoyment of What Not to Wear (I get to go shopping with the participants and with Stacy and Clinton. In fact, I would be in heaven if I got to go shopping with Stacy and Clinton for real!). I hate to admit it, because it’s not like me in the way that most people know me, but I love to shop.

What are some of your guilty pleasures? Why do you think you feel guilty about them?

For me, these are guilty pleasures because they don’t fit with the way that I think that I am perceived by others, and the way that I want to be perceived.

July 12, 2009

The value of doing nothing (I must remind myself)

Filed under: Life Balance — admin @ 3:39 pm

This month’s Real Simple Magazine (www.realsimple.com) features an article on the art of doing nothing. As I remain on my life balance kick these days, I have gotten to think about what doing nothing looks like for me.

For some people, doing nothing can be sitting on the porch, looking at a view for hours. Or it can be meditating. Those don’t quite work for me. My doing nothing is a bit more different from that — either a bit more “active” or even more “passive.”

“Active” doing nothing for me looks like reading a magazine, reading fiction, baking, or taking a walk. “Passive” doing nothing for me looks like napping or watching television. Those are the ways that I like to do nothing.

What does doing nothing look like for you?

July 7, 2009

The Tyranny of the To-Do List

Filed under: Life Balance — admin @ 1:47 pm

For some reason, we tend to judge ourselves on how productive we are. We often want to point to something we did so that we have something to show for how we spent our time. We feel better about ourselves if we can say that we accomplished something, finished a task, or worked hard on something.

This is a screwed-up yardstick if there ever was one. At the end of the day, we are not going to be remembered for our accomplishments. We are going to be remembered for our relationships. For the lives that we touched. For the people we loved. For the ways that we were good to others. Those are un-measureable accomplishments, and they far outweigh anything that we could cross off of a to-do list.

It is very difficult to hold onto these priorities in the face of the messages that we get about work and complete-able accomplishments. We get those messages from our environment, from our culture, and often from parents and teachers. We must reframe what is important in our lives and hold firm to the value of relationships.

I am one of the best to-do-list-crosser-offers in the business. Give me a set of tasks, and I will have no trouble planning how to get them done and doing them. And I must admit that I enjoy the feeling of productivity that comes with crossing off those items.

But that good feeling ends up being hollow. What am I left with? A list with a bunch of lines through it. When I focus more on people and less on tasks, I gain a much greater sense of satisfaction and meaning in my life. The connections that I can make with other people can be very powerful and deeply rewarding. It is not surprising that I was drawn to a career in education, as education is a human enterprise that takes place through relationships. I am fortunate to engage in very rich relationships with many people in my professional life (my students, my colleagues, researchers, etc.). And in my personal life, I make the effort to stay connected with other people. It’s what I like most about Facebook. It’s why I write this blog.

So the next time you think about what you did one day, rather than tally your accomplishments from your to-do list, think about the relationships that you formed and the connections that you made with other people. Let yourself appreciate the power of personal connections, and take the time to nurture those connections with the people in your life.

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